VANESSA Lachey revealed her mother “DISAPPEARED” when she was just nine-years-old.

The 41-year-old claimed her mother dropped her off at her father’s home and promised to return.

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While speaking to PEOPLE with her husband Nick Lachey, 48, the model opened up about her strained relationship with her mother.

After she was born in the Philippines, Vanessa moved around the United States with her American dad, Vincent Minnillo, and her Philippines-born mom, Helen Bondoc.

Her parents separated when she was three-years-old.

Vanessa and her older brother, Vincent, briefly lived in Turkey with their mother and step-father, though the family was evacuated back to America for safety at the beginning of the Gulf War in 1990.

Once in Los Angeles, Helen dropped off her children at their father's home

Helen allegedly told Vincent’s wife she would be back for Vanessa and her brother.

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As the weeks passed, Helen visited her kids a handful of times before she completely disappeared.

Recalling the experience, Vanessa told the outlet: ...I didn't really understand when she didn't come for one weekend, and then another weekend.

...Then you just hope she's going to come back and always wonder why she didn't. It took me 'time ' to understand that it wasn't 'my fault '....

Vanessa said she only saw her mother twice over the next decade.

The Total Request Live alum later met Nick in 2006 and the pair tied the knot in 2011.

She said she didn't realize how much her painful childhood had affected her until she became pregnant with their first child.


Vanessa admitted to struggling with feelings of self-doubt and insecurity, though learned don't have to fall into those 'same ' patterns, and I didn't....

Nick added: ...One thing I've learned about my wife is that she's a fighter and so resilient. If nothing else, 'her experience ' gave her a real appreciation for how important her kids are to her....

The NCIS star, who recently released the book Life From Scratch, explained that she hasn't let her past define her.

She said: ...Your messy past doesn't have to define your future.

...For that person who is doubting themselves, I would just encourage them to know that they know what's best for themselves and their family....


She has now been estranged from her mother for two decades, though Vanessa said she hasn't shut down the idea of a possible reconciliation.

Vanessa said: ...I would want to hear her story. It's not healthy or healing to carry around all that bitterness....

However, she said her current focus is on Nick and their kids: Camden, 9, Brooklyn, 6, and Phoenix, 4.

The Love Is Blind host said: ...I tell 'my kids ', ...Mommy will never leave you. I'm here no matter what — forever and ever.'...

Getty Images - GettyVanessa and Nick tied the knot in 2011 '/caption '

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